Friday, September 25, 2009

What we're foregoing

Weddings are super aggravating and expensive. So in the interests of simplicity, frugality and lack of resources, we've decided to forego the following for the wedding:

- Favors. Nobody seems to like these unless they're edible anyways. Lol!
- Chuppah. We'll be married in a tent-like structure at the venue and besides, I don't want to rent one for lots of money, nor do I have the time and patience to make one at this point
- Door games. Chinese weddings sometimes have the bridesmaids make the groom and his groomsmen complete a set of challenges. The bride is waiting in her room for her groom to pick her up and he has yet to see her. In order to gain entrance to her room, they must pass each challenge made up by the bridesmaids "defending" their friend.
- Bride price. Also a Chinese tradition where the groom and his faithful groomsmen try to pony up as much money as they can to help the groom offer an acceptable amount of money to the bride's father. The Chinese believe that since the daughter is traditionally leaving her own family to join the ranks of the groom's family, the girl's family should be fairly compensated for the loss of their beloved family member. Before gaining entrance to the girl's family home, the groom and the bride's father will haggle over the "bride price." This is just a game now and it's become a way for the boy's family to show off how rich they are. They more money they can offer, the more likely the amount settled upon will be announced, in what I consider bad taste, at the reception.
- Wedding day portrait. If they don't already know what we look like, they know what we look like when come!
- Limo. A roomy car will do just fine!
- Desperately trying to cut out any speeches and readings. They just don't do anything for me. Still trying to convince my fiance that it's okay not to have them!
- Valet parking. It's a parking lot. I think people can handle those.

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