Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Favors

I love getting favors at weddings and I love giving out favors. However, I can't stomach the idea of spending thousands of dollars on favors for one event. The truth is, favors aren't necessary. A friend of mine chose to forgo favors and nobody missed them. Still, it would be nice if we could give our guests a little something extra. I thought about chocolates, but having lots of chocolate delivered during such a hot summer.. well, they might arrive half melted. Eventually, I got sick of thinking about favors that people would like, but wouldn't break the bank. So I had every intention of skipping favors. That is, I had every intention of skipping them until I ate at the Mermaid Inn.

At the Mermaid Inn, you get something called a Fortune Fish after your meal. It's a thin piece of red plastic shaped like a fish that you place in your hand. You wait for it to curl and then read on the packaging what it means, depending on how the fish curled. My fiance and I always have fun playing with the fish, and we often bring it home to play it with again later. So one day, we had dinner at the Mermaid Inn and wondered how much one of those cost.

As it turned out, they don't cost much at all! So then we thought, "Wouldn't it be cool to give these to our guests?" Thus, the idea of using these as our favors was born. It's actually quite appropriate. It's red, which is a symbol of happiness and fortune. It's also a fish, which is a symbol of plentiful food. In Chinese, there is a saying that goes something like, "Every year there will be fish," which means that you will always have food and never starve. That is why a fish dish is traditionally present at weddings and other festive banquets.

Another item is now off my list! If you're curious, I ordered them online from here:
http://www.fortunetellerfish.com/?gclid=CMCrtciMj6MCFZdL5QodETkodQ

The guest book

I'm not the biggest fan of signing guest books, mostly because I never know what to write. I'll usually stick to the generic stuff like, "Best wishes" and "Congrats." It's hard to think of something clever and meaningful on the spot. On top of that, just because someone wrote something really sweet in your guest book doesn't mean you'll be friends forever. If we'll be friends forever, we'll be friends forever and no amount of yearbook and guest book signing or not signing will alter the course of our friendship.

Still, having a guest book of some sort isn't a bad thing. There are many versions of the wedding guest book that I've seen. Some asian weddings will have a red silk cloth for people to sign. I'm not sure what happens to this cloth afterward. Many brides opt for a pretty book with blank pages as their guest book. I can certainly go this route but I can guarantee that I won't be touching the book very much after the wedding. So it may very well end up as another object around the house to gather dust, eventually being tossed because it holds no meaning for anybody but me and my sweetie. That's not necessarily a bad thing. It's not like I go and read my yearbook very often, but I did get one and I did get people to sign it, and I have no plans to throw it out anytime soon. However, a conventional guest book just doesn't tickle my fancy. So I went searching for something extraordinary online and on Etsy.com.

Some of the things I found were really creative and very pretty. One bride gave each guest a tag with a ribbon attached and when the guests finished signing the tag, they hung the tag on the branches of a tree. On Etsy, I see a lot of hand-bound books and thumbprint trees. The thumbprint tree is basically a poster of a tree drawn or created by an artist and guests use green ink to place their thumbprint on the tree to make it look like leaves. It's a very creative idea, but I don't really want my guests walking around with green thumbs and my fiance doesn't like the idea of fingerprinting all our guests. Eventually, I found an artisan on Etsy that made tree posters, but instead of thumbprints, she printed out leaves for guests to sign. The leaves are stickers and guests, after signing their name, can stick the leaves onto the tree. It fits in perfectly with what we were looking for. It's unique, fun and pretty enough to frame and display somewhere.

If you'd like to see if this something you'd like for yourself, you can check out the Etsy store here:

http://www.etsy.com/shop/DesignbyMadison

Monday, July 26, 2010

The Qipao

I happen to love qipaos, which is a traditional chinese dress. You know, the one with a mandarin collar and slits up the sides. There are several reasons why I love this dress. First, it's a dress that is very specific to my culture and heritage. Second, it looks really good on asian women! Third, I feel really sexy in it!

The issue with the qipao is that so many touristy, westernized establishments dress their hostesses in qipaos to increase the exotic allure towards westerners that nowadays, you can't wear one without someone trying to order food or some kind of service from you. Horrible, isn't it? I mean, if an Indian woman can wear a sari and a Scottish man can wear a kilt, why can't I wear a qipao without looking like I'm trying to provide a "service?" It is our own fault, as a group, because we have been marketing our services in qipao wrappings. So now, the one time a woman can proudly wear a qipao is at a wedding.

Wedding qipaos are very special. They are usually handmade to the person's measurements. A really good qipao simply cannot be mass produced because it must fit the person perfectly. It is a very form-fitting dress and it takes a bit of skill to make a dress look good on certain figures - like mine! Lol! Unfortunately, nice handmade qipaos can cost from $600 to thousands, depending on how intricate you want it. It's usually made from silk, with bias binding and/or very fine piping along the edges and intricate handmade buttons. A friend of mine was lucky enough to have her mother bring her measurements to a shop in Hong Kong to have it made there and then her mother brought it to the U.S. The qipaos are cheaper if you can get it made in Asia. I am not lucky enough to have an opportunity like my friend's.

As much as I desperately want a qipao for my wedding, I blew most of my dress budget on the white wedding dress last year. So I had to settle for either renting one or making my own. I hate the thought of renting a dress, popular as it is, so I decided to make my own. I had the basic paper pattern cut out, the fabric bought and was just about to embark on another sewing adventure when one day, I decided to visit my mom, who had a great surprise for me!

Apparently, she was recommended a store that sold custom-made qipaos for really cheap. They take your mesaurements at the store and send 5 or more orders at a time to China, where the dress will be made. Then the finished dress is shipped to the U.S. and any last minute alterations will be made here. That's why it's so cheap. It's because they've outsourced the labor. Anyways, when I visited my parents, my mom dragged me out to the store to look at their selection. It wasn't much, but what they had was better than anything my novice skills could have made. I tried on a few different styles and was amazed that even in my current, fattened state, I still looked pretty good. Lol! My mom really wanted the red and gold one they had hanging on the wall. I didn't really like it. I didn't think it was my style at all, but my mom insisted that I try it on. My favorite was actually a black and sparkly purple one, but it's not wedding appropriate. As a bride, I have to be wearing red. So I tried on my mother's choice for me and lo and behold it was perfect! I mean it fit me perfectly as is! Plus I loved how I looked in it! So I bought the qipao right then and there and since it was a stock dress, I didn't have to pay extra for having custom-made. My wedding qipao turned out to be cheaper than if I had rented! Way to go mom! Thanks!

So that's another project I don't have to slave over and another item off my list! Now the thing I'm worried about is if I lose weight. I probably don't have to worry about it since I haven't been able to lose much in the last couple of months, but I am aiming to lose a bit more. There's not that much time left and I didn't have that much to lose to begin with so it may not happen. Still, I'd like to at least have some muscle tone show up before the end. We'll see, I guess.

Final thoughts on bouquets, bouts and corsages

So here's a breakdown of my bouquets, bouts and corsages.

- 6 real touch lavender lotuses ($12 each)
- 9 big hydrangea balls ($2 each)
- 1 bag of Marabou feathers ($1.60)
- 50 yards of ivory ribbon ($11)
- 13 cream gerbera daisies ($0.65 each)
- 1 set of mini lotus blossoms ($5)
- bouquet of daisies with 72 heads ($7)
- 20 lavender roses ($0.50)
- 1 reel of navy blue ribbon ($6)
- 1 package of 380 pieces of 20 gauge floral wire ($9)
- floral tape, package of 3 ($3)
- corsage pins for the bouts ($3)

This totals up to about $154.05 without shipping. I'm not sure how much I paid for tax and shipping since my orders usually had other items in it. I estimate that the shipping was about $50 to $60 total. It's a lot, so if buying flowers online, be mindful that tax and shipping can jack up the cost by a third of the price.

Another reason why the shipping and tax was so much is because I bought the flowers from separate places, so I had to pay shipping twice. Putting everything into one shipment is ideal. Try to finagle it so that your stuff comes just under the next cost bracket. If you end up with extra flowers, you can always use it as hair ornaments and/or decorations.

Considering the cost of wedding flowers in NYC can be about a thousand dollars, I'd say spending just over 200 bux on flowers that I can keep for a really long time is a pretty good deal! On top of that, I get exactly the bouquet I want how I want it, and I get to have it done way ahead of time. No worrying about flowers being delivered on time or wilting for me! :-)

As you may be able to virtually hear, I have been and still am patting myself on the back very happily! :-)

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Hair flower

I also made myself a hair flower. It's quite easy, actually. Just take a flower and snip the stem as close to the blossom as possible. Using a hot glue gun, add a dab of glue to keep the petals from coming off the stem and then add any leaves, feathers or other adornments to the back. Using a stray leaf or piece of felt or fabric, glue that to the back and then glue a clip to the backing.

Brides bouquet, bouts and corsages

So here are the rest of the photos of the bride's bouquet, bouts and corsages.

Bride's bouquet

Groom's bout


Fathers' bouts

Mothers' corsages

Groomsmen's bouts

The toss bouquet

Photos of bridesmaids' bouquets

Okay! So here are the promised photos of the bouquets and bouts!

Step one: Gather all the flowers.


Step 2: Remove the leaves and attach to floral wire.


Step 3: Cut off the lower set of leaves from the roses.


Step 4: Cut stems to desired length.

Step 5: Compose bouquet and wrap stems in floral tape.

Step 6: Fold down a corner of the ivory ribbon and wrap stems. Tape to keep in place.

Step 7: Voila! Finished!

Friday, July 23, 2010

The veil

A couple of weeks ago, I finished making my veil. While trying it on in front of the mirror, I realized that I didn't like it. It was too poofy! I went online and bought some more tulle to make another veil, thinking this is going to suck because it's more work!

Then, the seamstress came to do my second fitting. I tried my veil on with it and the seamstress thought the amount of poof fits nicely with the shape of the dress. So then I felt better. Lol! Well, I admit that I welcomed her saying that cause it means I don't have to make another one! I am my own worst critic sometimes.

Again, I promise pictures of the veil will be posted soon. Actually, I'm hoping to post all the promised photos this weekend.

Finished with the flowers... mostly.

I didn't have much to do so last night work ended earlier than the previous night's. I made two corsages and one bout. It was tricky figuring out how to do the corsages because I didn't really like how the stems stuck out. I tried to finagle it so the ribbon would cover the stems, but then the flowers were a bit off kilter when tied onto the wrist.

In the end, I resorted to my trusty hot glue gun! After attaching all the daisy blossoms to floral wire and then taping them together, I pulled the lavender rose head off its stem and hot glued it to the V in the daisy stems. The lavender rose head was big enough to cover the daisy stems and I didn't need any additional hydrangea blossoms to cover up any big gaps between the flowers.

The next step was finding a way to attach the flowers to the 2 inches wide navy blue ribbon. I supposed I could have used elastic or one of those snazzy beaded corsage bracelets, but I had ribbon, which is cheap, low-tech and just as pretty. Lol! So since my hot glue gun was still pretty heated up, I just hot glued the flowers to the ribbon. I know it creates a hard spot in the ribbon, but after trying it on, it wasn't noticeable and was still pretty comfortable. I thought about pulling the wire out of the ribbon, as it was a wired ribbon, but the wire was so thin and fine, I didn't find it uncomfortable and so therefore, that extra step was unnecessary.

Now the last thing I have to do is to make a toss bouquet. I don't have anymore lotuses for the toss bouquet, so I'm thinking of just making a bigger bridesmaid bouquet. I suppose I can add in the remaining wired feathers to differentiate the bridesmaid bouquet from the toss bouquet. I haven't fully decided yet. I'm still trying to coast on the fact that I'm mostly done now. Lol!

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Almost done with the flowers!

So I had all the flowers and other floral supplies ready in the apartment, just waiting to be put together. I waited and waited, first playing with this combination and then that combination. Eventually, I decided I just had to get them done already! So I did a bunch last night.

The absolute hardest part was cutting the stems. I had a wire cutter, but it was difficult to use on the really thick wired stems. I had to draft the help of my fiance in the end, but I did most of them myself. All in all, I think they turned out very nicely. I finished the bridesmaids' bouquets, my bouquet, the groom's bout, the groomsmen's bouts and my father's bout. I still have to do one more bout and the corsages for our moms. So I'm mostly done with the flowers. I thought about also doing corsages and bouts for our siblings, but my fingers and hands are bruised right now and the thought of doing another 3 corsages and 1 bout is just too much work right now. Anyways, I'll be posting photos as soon as I get them off my camera.

So for the bridesmaids' bouquest, I used:
- 3 cream gerbera daisies
- one bit hydrangea ball that came with three big leaves
- 4 lavender roses
- floral tape
- floral wire
- ivory ribbon
The first thing I did was pull the leaves off the hydrangea stem and using floral tape, attached them to floral wire. The lavender roses came with two sets of leaves, so I snipped off the ones that were lower on the stem. Those will be used for the bouts. I composed the bouquet and decided to cut the stems about two to three hands' width down from the flower heads. Once the stems are cut, I placed the gerbera daisies into the hydrangea ball and stuck one lavender rose in the middle of the bouquet. With the remaining lavender roses, I bent the heads until they were almost a 90 degree angle, then fitted them to the outside of the bouquet, where there were gaps. They generally ended up against the gerbera daisies. Once that's put together, I wrapped the stems tightly using floral tape. You can tape each stem, one by one, which I did for one of the bouquets, but it takes more time and effort. Once that's nicely wrapped, I fitted the leaves to surround the bouquet and then attached them using floral tape. The last thing to do was wrap the sticky floral tape part in ivory ribbon. I folded the tip down to make a triangle at the end and wrapped the stems going up. Once at the top, I folded the ribbon down again at an angle and wrapped the stems going down. Then I taped the end. I tried to use a corasage pin, but it was too hard to insert.

For my own bouquet, I used:
- 3 hydrangea balls
- 6 lavender lotuses
- and marabou feathers attached to floral wire using floral tape.
I used the same process as the bridesmaids' bouquets. I particularly like the effect of the feathers in the bouquet.

For the bouts, I had to wire the individual blossoms onto floral wire. The groomsmen got one small daisy blossom and two hydrangea blossoms. I used the rose leaves I cut off from before as the backdrop for the flowers. I ended up attaching the blossoms one by one with floral tape. The groom's bout has one larger mini lotus blossom and one smaller mini lotus blossom, 3 hydrangea blossoms and a set of rose leaves. My father's bout is one lavender rose and one set of rose leaves. I have to make another lavender rose bout for my fiance's stepfather.

For the corsages, I'm thinking a lavender rose and two small daisy blossoms with hydrangea blossoms as filler flowers, if needed. I'll need three of these. I'm planning to attach them to navy blue ribbon that they can tie onto their wrists.

Once all this is finished, I'll have some flowers leftover. I'm thinking I can use them in the centerpieces. I'm not sure I'll get around to making centerpieces, but if I have the time, at least I already have some of the supplies. :-)